When we suffer we don’t suffer from “what is”, rather the reality is different from our story about ourselves and our lives. We are confused because we believe there is something not quite right with our reality. We carry on a war against reality which keeps us continually breathless.
Loving What Is by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell
THE book to get into The Work. Who is Byron Katie? How did she find The Work? How and why does The Work work? In this book you find numerous case examples of the different areas The Work is used for. Katie accompanies all sorts of people through their numerous problems. Includes instructions to do The Work, worksheets for copying and more.
I Need Your Love -is that true? How to stop seeking love, approval, and appreciation and start finding them instead by Byron Katie and Michael Katz
This book is mainly about our relationships with others and with ourselves, the search for love, approval and appreciation. How do we get from a need for appreciation without wanting to, into a neediness, which is not love?
With The Work you can come out of this cycle, and because you don’t seek it desperately any more nor want to manipulate and control, we find love. We realise that because we are love we therefore attract love.
Thousand Names for Joy: How to Live in Harmony with the Way Things Are by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell
What does an “enlightened” life look like, a life in ‘the flow’, without the opposition of thoughts, without preconceived concepts, without interfering beliefs and expectations? When all conditioning has been dissolved, a life of harmony is possible, driven by the secretive power that lets flowers grow and people breathe.
Who would you be without your story? by Byron Katie
This book documents 15 sittings in which Byron Katie guides people through The Work. The various themes span from illness to divorce, to sexual abuse and show that no problem is too small, too large, or too abstract to be handled by The Work. The book is ideal for beginners that want to get to know The Work through practical excercises.
More advanced “workers” profit from Katie’s experience as facilitator, as the recorded dialogues show how she stays on track even during “tough processes”. At the end every client has been brought into “a workflow” through consistent enquiry and a healthy portion of humour.
Tiger-Tiger, Is It True?: Four Questions to Make You Smile Again by Byron Katie and Hans Wilhelm
“Tiger-Tiger, Is It True?” is a story about a little tiger who thinks that his whole world is falling apart: his parents don’t love him, his friends have abandoned him, and life is unfair. But a wise turtle asks him four questions, and everything changes. He realizes that all his problems are not caused by things, but by his thoughts about things; and that when he questions his thoughts, life becomes wonderful again. This is a heart-warming story with a powerful message that can transform the lives of even very young children. Byron Katie’s wisdom-filled words and Hans Wilhelm’s vivid, magical illustrations combine to make a book that will become one of the classics of children’s literature.
Katie’s small Booklets
Byron Katie on Health, Sickness, and Death by Byron Katie
The fear of death is the last smokescreen for the fear of love. We think that we’re afraid of the death of our body, though what we’re really afraid of is the death of our identity. But through inquiry, as we understand that death is just a concept and that our identity is a concept too, we come to realize who we are. This is the end of fear.“
— Byron Katie
Byron Katie on Love, Sex, and Relationships by Byron Katie
Our partners, alive, dead, or divorced, are always our greatest teachers. There’s no mistake about the person you’re with; he or she is the perfect teacher for you, whether or not the relationship works out, and once you enter inquiry, you come to see that clearly. There’s never a mistake in the universe. So if your partner is angry, good. If there are things about him that you consider flaws, good, because these flaws are your own, you’re projecting them, and you can write them down, inquire, and set yourself free. People go to India to find a guru, but you don’t have to: You’re living with one. Your partner will give you everything you need for your own freedom.“
— Byron Katie
Byron Katie on Parents and Children by Byron Katie
Can I do what I wanted my parents to do? Can I give myself what I wanted my parents to give me? This is a life’s work. Some of us don’t know how. And we expect our parents to have known how. Everything you want them to give you, turn it around, and give it to yourself. Life is good. I have myself now. And then everything I want, I give you too. And I feel such joy. I come to see that that is the gift I give myself. But until I gave it to myself, I couldn’t give it to you. And to give it to you is to give it to my very own self.“
— Byron Katie
Byron Katie on Self-Realization by Byron Katie
The Work always brings us back to who we really are. Each belief investigated to the point of understanding allows the next belief to surface. You undo that one. Then you undo the next, and the next. And then you find that you are actually looking forward to the next belief. At some point you may notice that you are meeting every thought, feeling, person, and situation as a friend. Until eventually you are looking for a problem. Until, finally, you notice that you haven’t had one in years.“
— Byron Katie
Byron Katie on Work and Money by Byron Katie
Money is not your business, truth is your business. The story ‘I need more money’ is what keeps you from realizing your wealth. Whenever you think that your needs are not being met, you’re telling the story of a future. You’re supposed to have exactly as much money as you have right now. This is not a theory: this is reality. How much money do you have? That’s it, you’re supposed to have exactly that amount. If you don’t believe it, look at your checkbook. How do you know when you’re supposed to have more? When you do. How do you know when you’re supposed to have less? When you do. This is true abundance. It leaves you without a care in the world.“
— Byron Katie